I think in a way it’s programmed into us as a society – it’s a question that often comes after “What do you do for a living?”. People often struggle to understand that what I want to do and what I actually can do are two very different things and that discussing what I would love to be doing etc. can be very difficult for me. I’m not even sure they mean to make me feel that answering it factually is ‘negative’ I think more often than not they just can’t imagine being in my shoes and don’t now how to react/respond. Don’t get me wrong I understand that it is difficult, perhaps I don’t react in quite the way they expect when they tell me their happy news either, I mean out worlds are often poles apart because of my health. But I do try and understand it from their perspective & some of my best friends do the same for me – they admit they can only try to imagine how I must feel, but they do try. Whereas others just don’t bother.

“Right now I have no solid answers, nothing to indicate whether my health will stay as it is forever, improve at all or even deteriorate. My doctors are still working on finding out exactly how my “system works”, to quote one of my doctors. ”

Who on earth are these people who ask you the first question, and have the gall to make you feel that answering it factually is ‘negative’?